Your best weight is whatever weight you reach when you are living your healthiest life that you actually enjoy living.
Weight is relevant. For example, you could compare two totally different people. They may be the same weight, but they are not going to look the same, at all. I could go into the science of how muscle weighs more than fat, and how your height factors in, blah blah blah! Although all of that is important. I want to talk about the mentality towards the dreaded scale. When a potential client approaches me, almost always their goals is "weight loss". This is good! Definitely a start. However, the correct term should be fat loss. You don't want to lose weight, you want to lose fat. Who cares what you weigh!
In lots of cases my clients have lost hardly any weight but look extremely different when I compare their progress pictures, plus they are happier and healthier. The first sentence in this word vomit mess I call a blog was "Your weight is whatever weight you reach when you are living your healthiest life that you actually enjoy living." This is so powerful to me, I don't know where to begin.
At one point in my life, I was at my lowest weight. I had dropped 30lbs, I was so lean. BUT I wasn't enjoying my life. I wasn't living. Now, you do not need to eat your face off and drink at every event or occasion to say you are living life. That is not my point. My point is I can go out for lunch when it is convenient for my friends to go. If my boyfriend wants to have a glass of wine, I can say YES! The trick is to make more good decisions then bad decisions.
I want to urge everyone to focus on how they feel more than what they weight, it is such a waste of time to obsess over the scale. it can be used as a tool to track progress, but do not become dependant on the number. Do not weight yourself in the morning and let the number you see ruin your day. Make good decisions when it comes to food, don't spend 3 hours a day for 6 days a week in the gym. Enjoy training, make it a part of your life. Some people chose for fitness to be their life, but you can be healthy and look your best without devoting ALL of your time to working out and missing those fun dinner dates.
I promise you there is an in between. There is balance, and there is no magical number that everyone looks amazing at. Your goal weight is relative to you and allows your to feel great and enjoy yourself.